Another Halloween Eve Thursday Rundown

Happy Halloween Eve my Don’t Blink trick-or-treaters. No candy to give out tonight, just plenty of bad writing. Let’s get started with tonight’s rundown right away so you will have time to put the finishing touches on your costume…

Pumpkins – We purchased our pumpkins from the Safeway right next to our house. The display is usually in pristine condition but when we arrived the presentation was a little disheveled. However, there wasn’t any lack of size. Pretty much all the pumpkins were of the jumbo variety and at $.49 per pound, that meant we spent a little over $20 on the two 10-pound-plus pumpkins the kids selected. Next Thursday Rundown I will show you how they look as jack-o-lanterns.

Sloan and Beau stand in front of the “pumpkin patch” at” Safeway.

Springsteen Movie – On Sunday, Sid and I enjoyed a mid-day date at the movie theater. We watched “Springsteen: Deliver Me From Nowhere.” Sidney was really excited to see the film and I love any excuse to sneak away to the theater. The verdict? My wife received everything she was expecting but I wouldn’t give it a stellar review. In my opinion, the film focused on a niche part of Bruce Springsteen’s life and the plot lacked depth. I thought Jeremy Allen White gave a solid performance but centering an entire movie on Springsteen’s push to record a folk album didn’t do it for me. Even though I am a fan of THE BOSS, I recommend that you wait to watch this at home.

Our tickets to the Springsteen movie that we saw on Sunday. I thought the film focused on a time in Bruce’s life that was a little too niche.

Chinese Checkers – There is a common phrase that goes something like this: I’m playing chess while you’re playing checkers. It is meant to convey that one person is at a superior level strategically than someone else. And, as it applies to my children, the adage is true…Sloan is currently playing chess while Beau is playing checkers. However, Beau is playing the Chinese variety of the latter game. While Sid and I went to the theater to watch the Springsteen movie on Sunday, my parents watched the kids and taught them how to play Chinese Checkers. Sloan evidently thought the game didn’t challenge her intellect enough but Beau loved it. My son used the same board and played with the same oooold marbles I did growing up.

Beau playing Chinese Checkers with my parents this past weekend.

Early Halloween With Sid – This is the perfect blog post for a Throwback Thursday image to one of the earlier Halloweens that Sid and I spent together. This was all the way back in 2015 when my better half dressed up as Wednesday Addams and I opted for a scary clown costume. Even though Sidney HATES clowns, she decided to stay with me.

I am a big fan of costumes! In this photo from Halloween 2015, I dressed up as an evil clown and Sidney was Wednesday from the Addams Family.

Halloween Candy Moderation – This will be the third year that Sid and I implement our Halloween candy moderation strategy for our kids. You can read all the specific details of the approach that I outlined in 2023, but here is the gist: We take the treat bags from both kids and combine them together. Next, we sort the combined contents into a “chocolate” bin and a “fruity” bin. We then put the bins at the top of our pantry and distribute to our children accordingly. By doing this we are able to monitor the candy consumption of Sloan and Beau, eliminate any fighting between the kids on “who got what,” separate the candy so the Snickers bars don’t taste like Skittles, and allow Sid and I to sample for quality control.

After allowing the kids to view/sort their candy, we then combine it and place at the top of our pantry.

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Happy Halloween, everyone! I hope you have a safe and fun holiday. Watch scary movies, pass out good candy, and ENJOY. Don’t Blink.

Get A Grip: The Claw

It is another childhood memory that I remember vividly. I was probably 10 and I was at the grocery store with my mom. We checked out and as we exited through the first set of automatic doors and into the space with shopping carts and drink machines, I noticed a claw game. This particular claw game was filled with stuffed animals and a determined woman was stationed at the machine.

I noticed she was actually playing the game, not just jerking the joy stick back and forth while the claw was disabled like my quarter-less brother and I would do. She had fed the game a couple dollars and seemed to be pretty close to dropping the claw in precisely the right spot. However, an inch or two is everything and she reached for new bills once or twice more. By the time she was probably $5 in—a fortune to me—she deployed the claw and it grasped a stuffed animal. I held my breath as the claw elevated the toy and shakily maintained its grip until dropping it into the prize chute.

Without even celebrating or smiling, she pushed open the prize door, grabbed the stuffed animal, handed it to me, and walked through the second set of automatic doors and into the parking lot.

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Just like when you win the first time at gambling, watching someone win at the claw game can be intoxicating. I thought I could replicate her feat and tried constantly over the next couple years. However, after not coming close to winning a prize at local arcades and stores, I came to my senses in the same way I did about casinos—I was just wasting my money.

Unfortunately, my kids are still in the stage I found myself stuck in for two years. They feel like they have a chance to actually win at the claw game. Unless it is one of the “play until you win” candy claw games where you can win a single, hard Tootsie Roll that wouldn’t even retail for a penny, I have tried to convince them that these games are practically rigged.

You see, the chances of pulling anything out of the prize area of a claw game seem like zilch. These days, the claws themselves are finicky, cheap, and weak. A human hand would have a better chance at catching lightning than a claw would have at catching a prize. A couple years ago, I actually vented my frustration about claw games when unloading on the modern day racket known as the American arcade.

On Saturday night, I must have been in a good mood. Despite watching my kids waste so much money on claw machines over the past few years, I decided to reward them for semi-good behavior at Red Robin. As we left the restaurant, instead of gravitating to the balloons, Sloan and Beau huddled around the new claw game that I guess Red Robin felt compelled to install. It was a rare instance when I actually had a dollar on me so I decided to feed the machine.

In another rare anomaly, Beau conceded to Sloan to take the turn. I kid you not: I had already turned my head as Sloan lined up to drop the claw because I wanted to spare myself the sight of her badly missing. But as I listened to the claw deploy with my eyes facing the opposite direction, I heard it actually latch onto something. I turned around to see that the claw had clutched a stuffed dinosaur. I watched in disbelief as the grip remained and the dinosaur was successfully dropped and deposited into the prize chute. Sloan had won a prize on her first and only try.

My daughter then retrieved the prize and handed it to her brother—completely unaided by me. I didn’t know what was more miraculous: Sloan winning at the claw game or giving her prize away to her younger sibling.  Beau walked out of Red Robin hugging his new stuffed animal.

Beau holds the stuffed dinosaur his sister won for him while playing the claw game at Red Robin.

Once in a blue moon, a claw machine can actually render some joy. Don’t Blink.

2025 Halloween Costumes

Over the next two months as we conclude 2025, I will publish several Don’t Blink annual blog posts. We kick things off with my yearly Reser children Halloween costume reveal. But before I spill the beans, I need to disclose what my daughter is not this year. After three straight years wearing a pointy hat, Sloan chose not to be a witch for Halloween 2025.

Sloan was a witch for the third year in a row in 2024. The streak came to an end this year.

I will explain momentarily why Sloan chose against a witch. However, I don’t want to keep all of you in suspense for much longer. So, drum roll please…

Beau and Sloan are Stich and Lilo for Halloween 2025.

This year, Sloan and Beau are Lilo and Stitch.

This year for Halloween, Sloan and Beau are wearing Lilo and Stitch costumes.

Beau was the first to pull the trigger. He loves Stitch and sleeps with a stuffed version every night (is that bad that a kindergartener is still sleeping with a stuffed animal?). When he found out that he could dress up as Experiment 626, he didn’t think twice. Sid purchased the costume at Target.

Beau is a huge fan of Stitch and his 2025 Halloween costume reflects that.

When it came to Sloan, she simply didn’t want to be a witch again. However, she still wanted to stay on the darker side and expressed her intentions to be a vampire queen (WTF, right?). When those plans didn’t quite materialize due to constraints with accessories, she chose to go in a very different direction and made a family-first decision. In a show of solidarity with Beau, she decided to complement his portrayal of stitch by serving as his Lilo. Sid picked up Sloan’s overpriced costume from Spirit Halloween.

Sloan chose to be Lilo this Halloween.

They truly make a great team together. But after a weekend of Halloween festivities, we have discovered a couple things. First, Stitch is an extremely popular costume this year as Beau found himself walking amongst many other blue aliens these past few days. Second, even when paired with Beau, Sloan’s Lila costume isn’t as obvious as we thought. Some people have mistaken her for who she dressed up as in 2021—Moana.

We have seen a lot of other Stitches this Halloween season.

Despite the popularity of Beau’s costume and the mistaken identity of Sloan’s, they are both rocking it this Halloween. They have taken on the personalities of the dynamic Disney duo and have fed off each other.

Sloan and her friend, Presley, at St. Mary’s Halloween event on Friday.

They will slip on their 2025 costumes a couple more times this week, including the main event on Halloween night. My hope is that 20 years from now we can get them into Lilo and Stitch adult costumes and take a photo to post side-by-side one of the images taken this Halloween. Don’t Blink.

Past Halloween Costume Posts
Halloween Costumes 2024
Halloween Costumes 2023
Halloween Costumes 2022
Halloween Costumes 2021
Halloween Costumes 2020

Crustless Thursday Rundown

That day of the week is once again here and I am ready to roll. Let’s jump right into my latest Thursday Rundown…

Donuts With Dad – This morning, St. Mary Catholic School held its annual Donuts With Dad event. As the kids are still feeling a little blue after their grandparents flew back to South Carolina yesterday, this was a nice dose of positive cheer for them. It can always get a little hectic in the gym with so many students and dads but once again we all really enjoyed ourselves.

Thanks to St. Mary for organizing this morning’s “Donuts With Dad” event (photo courtesy of Alisha Roberts).

Missoula At Its Best – It can be tough to beat Missoula on an autumn October day. I took this photo after last Saturday’s Griz game of Sloan in front of blue skies, Mt. Sentinel, and the Clark Fork River. What more can you want?

I love this photo of Sloan at the footbridge that leads to the University of Montana campus.

Uncrustables War – Have you heard the news? The Smucker Company, which owns Uncrustables, is suing Trader Joe’s for trademark infringement because allegedly TJ’s is taking way too many liberties with its version of a crustless PB&J sandwich. The Trader Joe’s product is too similar in shape and packaging to the Smucker project. However, while those two brands battling it out, I am just sitting over here eating my Costco-branded crustless peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Seriously, these things are awesome!

The Costco version of the “Uncrustable” sandwich is actually really good!

October Snow Storm – It was five years ago that Spokane was covered in snow. The fact that so much powder dumped during October was unusual but it also served as a “Welcome to Washington” of sorts for Sid and the kids as South Carolina is snow-deprived. Sid and Sloan had so much fun!

Sid and Sloan out in the snow during October 2020.

October Challenge – I always enjoy sharing memes that my friend, Lindsi, posts. She had some good ones today but what you see below was my favorite. It is quite easy to have monthly “challenges” take up your entire year but sometimes it is nice to allow a month or two without some self-help purge hanging over your head. With that said, continued good luck to my kids who are tackling the “No Candy Until Halloween” challenge. October 31 is just eight days away!

Thanks to Lindsi for another relatable meme.

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Okay, that will conclude tonight’s rundown. This is the big weekend for Halloween activities so please enjoy but be safe! Catch up with everyone next week. Don’t Blink.

An Autumn 2025 Visit From Sid’s Parents

We said goodbye to Sidney’s parents today after another awesome visit. They last traveled to Spokane in July 2024 when the days were sunny and hot. This time around, the abundant sunshine was still present but the weather was crisper. However, the cooler temperatures were a fair trade for the beautiful autumn colors that dominated the Inland Northwest landscape. But sunny or not, hot or crisp, muted colors or vibrant colors, one thing remained the same—it sure was nice to spend the past week with them.

We had a really nice visit from my in-laws. October is a great time to visit in Spokane! This is us on the Eastern Washington University campus when Sid, her parents, and my kids came to visit.

This visit was unique in a major way: we broke up their stay with a trip to Missoula. My in-laws had never set foot in Montana before so it was fun to take them to The Treasure State. Driving through the mountains was a neat experience and once we arrived in Missoula we had quite the adventure. We stayed in the C’Mon Inn, a rustic-type wilderness-themed hotel that gave us a couple nights to really spend quality time together.

We stayed at the C’Mon Inn during our time in Missoula. But it didn’t matter how cool the hotel was just as long as Beau got to ride on the luggage cart.

The full day of our excursion was devoted to attending a University of Montana football game. After tailgating, we entered a sun-drenched Washington-Grizzly Stadium where we watched the Griz win in probably the best football weather you could imagine. Once the game concluded we went down on the field and let the kids expend some energy.

It was a joy to watch a football game with Sid’s parents in Washington-Grizzly Stadium. After the Griz won, we went down on the field.

Besides the football game, we scoped out campus, ate at a couple restaurants, and enjoyed the amenities of the hotel that included a pool and numerous hot tubs (including a jacuzzi in our room).

Us “guys” hanging out at MacKenzie River in Missoula.

But on the front and back ends of our time in Montana, we had the pleasure of simply taking it easy with Sidney and Brenda Mathis in Spokane. We spent time in the house relaxing, laughing at Saturday Night Live, watching Jeopardy, playing games, and working on school projects.

One of the games that we played was chess. Sloan got to test her skills against “Dada.”

Speaking of school, Sid’s parents did more than just help the kids with their homework. They dropped off the kids at St. Mary in the morning, bought them tasty school lunch items, and even attended the school’s fun run last Thursday. Sloan felt such honor introducing her classmates to “Gami and Dada.”

My in-laws helped out a lot with the kids over the past week. With so much activity, it was nice for them to just sit down and snuggle up with the kids at the end of the day.

I was also humbled that my in-laws came out to campus to visit me. They saw my office, browsed the Eagle Store, and saw Eastern Washington University in its full glory during leaf color-changing time. They also met some of my colleagues, including my boss.

Sid, her parents, and the kids visited me at work on Thursday. It was a great time to walk on the campus of Eastern Washington University with beautiful autumn colors in full display.

Another signature moment of this latest visit was Sunday dinner at my parents’ house. My mom and dad cooked lasagna and the men got to watch some of the Mariners game. However, to be honest, my dad and father-in-law were more interested in talking to each other than seeing whether Seattle could advance to the World Series or not (we know how that turned out). Each time we got those four together, we try to casually impart on our kids how special it is.

On Sunday night, all four grandparents got together as my parents hosted us for a lasagna dinner. These photos are priceless.

On the last night here, Sid’s dad had the opportunity to watch our mini Lebron James play some basketball 😂. He attended Beau’s first basketball practice with Sidney and got to experience the organized chaos (or was it just plain chaos?) that it entailed. However, the practice wasn’t the only “first” they observed of Beau during their stay—they also witnessed their grandson losing his first tooth.

Mr. Sid attended Beau’s first basketball practice that took place outside due to it being an optional, kickoff practice.

Most satisfying to me, however, was that my wife got to spend plenty of time with her mom and dad. Sid took time off work and had the privilege of hanging with her parents while I was at EWU and the kids were at school. She deserved that.

This is probably my favorite photo of the visit. You can see the happiness on Sid’s face that she is with her parents.

It never gets easier saying goodbye to Sid’s parents. However, I feel blessed that we continue to make memories with them. If not sooner, we will see them again during the summer and we are already counting down the days. Don’t Blink.

Beau Loses His First Tooth!

It was a corn dog that did the trick. On Saturday night, we were eating at the Montana Club in Missoula with my in-laws when Beau complained that he couldn’t eat his dinner. Biting a corn dog with his loose bottom front tooth proved too painful for our 5-year-old. Not wanting to do an extraction at the table, I cut the corn dog into pieces so he could chew it with his back teeth. However, his initial attempt at eating it had already loosened his tooth enough for Sid to step in.

Despite my internal wishes to wait until we got back to the hotel (I am awful with loose teeth and blood), Beau crawled under the table to the other side of the booth where Sid was siting. My wife then draped her fingers in a napkin, grabbed onto Beau’s tooth, and pulled it out.

Beau had officially lost his first tooth!

It took a couple of additional napkins for Beau to pat the bloody area dry but his happiness trumped any queasiness. He joyfully posed for a toothy grin minus one bottom denticle.

Beau smiles after losing his first tooth. Sidney pulled it out while we ate dinner at the Montana Club in Missoula.

Beau lost his first tooth on his 2,082nd day of life, much earlier than his sister who lost her first tooth on her 2,511th day of life. For those keeping track at home, that equates to 429 days sooner than Sloan—roughly 14 months.

It didn’t surprise me. Beau’s teeth came in at an early age, drawing the admiration of his dentist. I guess it only makes sense that his baby teeth would start to fall out early as well. Then there is the sibling rivalry aspect of it. Beau has seen Sloan lose quite a few teeth over the past year and a half, offering up some motivation for him to do the same.

If there was ever any anxiety that the Tooth Fairy wouldn’t find Beau since he was out-of-state at the time of his tooth falling out, the doubt was squashed Sunday morning. When he awoke, a whole $2 was resting under his pillow.

Beau holds his Tooth Fairy money that was waiting for him under his hotel room pillow when he woke up on Sunday morning.

We made a lot of Facetime calls over the weekend. Beau was super proud and wanted to smile for all his cousins. As of right now, it doesn’t appear as if he has any more loose teeth but according to trends I think that might change over the next couple months. Who knows, perhaps he will eventually catch up to his sister. Don’t Blink.

Playing Chess With Sloan

Check mate. ♟️

I have told the story before. When I was in sixth grade, my teacher had the ingenuity and patience to teach our class chess. I had no idea how to play the game when I entered Mr. Jared Hoadley’s classroom but when I left for the summer I knew how to navigate a chess board with confidence and basic strategy. What a gift!

The game has come in handy over the past 27 years. Chess is truly a universal game and I have been able to play with many people over the past few decades. In fact, lately I have found myself face-to-face with a truly formidable opponent: my daughter.

We enrolled Sloan in Chess Club at St. Mary (Spokane Valley) and it has opened up another opportunity for me to bond with her.

We enrolled Sloan in chess club at St. Mary. Every Monday for just an hour after school, a professional chess coach from the Inland Chess Academy visits the campus and gives a lesson. After he finishes his lesson, the enrolled students play each other.

So far it has been a great experience for Sloan. She has found that she enjoys chess and looks forward to the weekly lessons. The enthusiasm doesn’t just extend to Monday afternoons—she likes to play at home too.

As part of the enrollment fee, the Inland Chess Academy gave her an oversized chess set to bring home. So far it has received a lot of use as she challenges her old man. Yep, Sloan and I are playing chess on pretty much a nightly basis.

It has been fun to match wits with my daughter. At this point, my skill level is still above hers, so I have tried to do more coaching than just trying to achieve check mate in as few moves as possible. However, I know for certain that the day will come when she will wipe the board with me. To be honest, I don’t think that day will be too far off.

Sloan isn’t just playing me in chess. With Sidney’s parents in town from South Carolina, Sloan has went head-to-head with my father-in-law.

A year ago, I ran into Mr. (now “Dr.”) Hoadley at a high school football game. I told him how much I appreciated the effort he made to teach my class chess. He responded in a very interesting way. His main goal for teaching us chess wasn’t what I envisioned. Although critical thinking and strategizing were both reasons for helping us learn the game, there was something else that drove him to teach us chess. You want me to tell you what he said?…

He told me it was to give his students an outlet to be social with each other.

As Sloan pleads with me to play chess with her, I remember Mr. Hoadley’s motivation for helping us to appreciate the game. Although it is fun to compete against Sloan and teach her maneuvering/tactics, at the end of the day she views it mostly as a way to spend time with her dad. That’s something I can’t take for granted. Don’t Blink.

Zip’s Thursday Rundown

Just two weeks until Halloween Eve. You know what that means? Halloween is on a Friday this year…yay! Let’s jump right into the latest Thursday Rundown…

In-Laws In Town – Sidney’s parents arrived in Spokane yesterday! Coincidentally, they arrived on Oct. 15 exactly five years ago as well. As with that trip and the other times they have visited us over the past half decade, I know their time here will be marked by memories and fun. Autumn in Spokane is awesome and it is also pretty spectacular in Missoula as well—yes, we will be taking them to Montana over the next couple days. Let the good times roll!

My in-laws visited me on campus today! So glad to have them here.

Zip’s Shakes – This past Friday, I took Sloan and Beau for milkshakes at Zip’s. Sloan ordered a caramel shake and Beau ordered a banana one. This shake stop was right before I dropped them off at my sister’s house for the weekend so Sid and I could attend our retreat. Much in the same way that there isn’t anything more American than milkshakes on a Friday, there isn’t anything more “Spokane” than milkshakes at Zip’s on a Friday. An absolute fast food institution in the Inland Northwest, Zip’s is what Cookout is in the South.

Sloan and Beau drinking milkshakes at the Zip’s in Mead.

Andy Dufrense – Happy birthday to Tim Robbins! He turns 67 today. To be honest, I haven’t seen a lot of movies with Tim Robbins, but he does star in one of the few movies I can watch over and over. I have watched “The Shawshank Redemption” probably 30 times and I still get a kick out of it when Andy saves himself from a beating and wins his fellow inmates beers when he offers tax advice to the top prison guard.

Tim Robbins does a great job portraying Andy Dufrense in “The Shawshank Redemption.”

First Reaction to Taylor’s New Album – Thanks to my wife, I have listened to the new Taylor Swift album non-stop for the past several days. My initial reaction? It will have to grow on me. “The Fate of Ophelia” is catchy but I am not sold on much else. I am also completely turned off by her more explicit lyrics. I liked it more when Sloan could listen along.

Not too impressed with Taylor Swift’s new album.

Pumpkin – Although I think our country’s obsession with “pumpkin” has gotten a little out of control, I am still a fan of the flavor. In October 2016, I ranked my top five favorite pumpkin-inspired items. This is how the countdown went: 5. Pumpkin beer | 4. Pumpkin soup | 3. Pumpkin frozen yogurt | 2. Pumpkin dip | 1. …..you wish I would tell you, right? If you want to know my top pumpkin item, you will need to go back in time nine years to reference my post. Yep, you just said “trick-or-treat” and I gave you the treat.

I like a lot of pumpkin-flavored food/beverage items. Yikes, I might have just given away my favorite.

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Time to get back to my in-laws. Hope everyone has a terrific weekend—I can’t wait for mine to begin! Don’t Blink.

Embracing Vulnerability at Engaged Encounter

As I have mentioned before, Sid and I are part of a ministry called Catholic Engaged Encounter. A big component of this ministry is retreat-based. Our Spokane chapter, which we are the leaders of, stages three weekend retreats for engaged couples to attend each year. One of these retreats took place this past weekend and Sid and I once again served as a presenting couple.

Sid and I presented at our fourth Engaged Encounter retreat this past weekend.

We teamed with Ric and Cindy Gaunt and Fr. Ken Krall to make a positive impact on the six couples who attended. Our goal was to prepare these future husbands and wives for successful marriages that are centered on God. Through numerous presentations, activities, and face-to-face discussions, we did our best to achieve it.

Sid and I worked with a fabulous team at our most recent Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter retreat. Ric and Cindy Gaunt plus Fr. Ken Krall joined us to form the ministry team for the October 2025 retreat.

This was the fourth retreat that Sid and I led. Each one is always a blessing but I feel like a new theme emerges each time. For this past retreat, what I took away was just the fruit that is produced when a chance is taken.

An aerial look inside the Immaculate Heart Retreat Center as the engaged couples who attended the October 2025 Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter prepare for the beginning of the next session.

These days, it can be a tough sell to ask a young engaged couple to give up an entire weekend to sleep in dormitory-style accommodations and listen to approximately 15 different presentations. In a society where God is devalued, direct communication is avoided, and smart devices are king, a Catholic-centered retreat that encourages young adults to unplug and embrace vulnerability can do more to repel than to attract.

Kudos to these engaged couples (plus Fr. Ken Krall) for making it through the October 2025 Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter retreat.

But thanks be to God for the six couples who still chose to attend the retreat. As they arrived at the Immaculate Heart Retreat Center, they were frank about the anxiety they were feeling. Our response? We feel anxiety, too! Even though this was the fourth retreat we gave, Sid and I still get nervous to present and we are very aware that we aren’t perfect. Being able to communicate this to the attendees usually calms nerves.

As the retreat progresses, you can begin to see the couples relax more and truly appreciate the opportunity in front of them. Saturday night’s intimate mass followed by a candlelight prayer service usually seals the deal for those who came to the retreat feeling apprehensive. By Sunday morning, many of the couples appear to be glowing.

The engaged couples who attended our October 2025 Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter retreat take a moment after mass and the candlelight prayer service took place in the Immaculate Heart Retreat Center chapel.

We always ask the couples to fill out evaluation forms at the end of the retreat—in fact, we withhold their graduation certificates until they do 😉. The evaluation form asks the attendees to rate their experience, the weekend’s impact, our performance, and whether they would recommend the retreat to others.

Not to toot our own horns because a satisfying retreat is always indicative of God’s power and has nothing to do with us, but feedback is typically extremely positive. However, in addition to the stellar written reviews from this past weekend’s retreat, we also received some verbal affirmation.

Sidney and Cindy Gaunt discuss something as the engaged couples write after a presentation.

A couple approached Ric, Cindy, Sid, and me after the graduation ceremony and told us their story. The guy said he had reservations about attending the retreat and was accompanying his fiancée to humor her. But as the weekend unfolded and he bought into our invitation to embrace vulnerability, he ended up really appreciating and learning from the retreat. He concluded that he was grateful to have attended.

If you know an engaged couple who would benefit from an Engaged Encounter retreat—Catholic or not—feel free to reach out to me. The experience will only help their future marriage once they tie the knot. Don’t Blink.

2025 Birthday Gifts

When my wife and I give each other gifts on our respective birthdays, we always set a modest budget. However, even though we never spend that much, we always—well, Sidney at least (😂)—stretch every penny to purchase practical and meaningful presents.

As is the custom for Don’t Blink, I like to share what I received for my birthday. Also, per usual, I will share what my kids gave me as well.

Sloan and Beau – My daughter sent me on the cutest scavenger hunt throughout the house that eventually led me to the pantry. When I opened it up, there was a pack of Colossal Clusters waiting for me. Any type of snack mix that includes peanuts and chocolate is a winner for me. Beau gave me a gift bag that contained a card and green apple licorice. If you are a licorice fan like me, you must try the Wiley Wallaby line—the vines are thick and flavorful!

My kids gave me some treats for snacking!

Sidney – As she normally does, my wife searches long and hard for items that I will get plenty of use out of. Let’s begin with the duffel bag. When I travel—both via car and plane—I usually take a duffel bag instead of a traditional roller bag. However, the duffel I have used for the last several years was on its last leg. I literally had to cover up rips with duct tape. Sidney fixed the situation by getting me a brand new Under Armour duffel bag from a local sporting goods store called Big 5. With a couple back-to-back weekend trips lined up, it will come in handy real soon.

My wife got me a brand new duffel bag to replace the one I currently have that is falling apart.

I have trashed Target in the past and I still don’t really like the store. But there is one aspect of the chain that I look forward to each year: its men’s line of fall clothes. They come out with thermals and sweaters that are beyond comfortable and handsomely designed. Sid bought me the below top that fits my “style” perfectly and will keep me comfy on cool autumn weekend days.

I really like the Target autmun clothing by Goodfellow. Sid nailed it by getting me this shirt.

A few years ago, my boss at WSU gave me a pair of goodr sunglasses as a Christmas gift. I wore them like they were going out of style but unfortunately they broke this past summer. Thanks to Sidney, I have a new pair!

After my first pair of goodr sunglasses broke this past summer, Sid got me a new pair for my birthday.

And finally, my wife wanted to make sure I was set in the licorice department. She added to the supply that Beau started me with my giving me classic red and classic black packs of Wiley Wallaby licorice.

Seriously, if you haven’t tried Wiley Wallaby licorice yet you need to give it a shot!

Thank you to my wife and kids for the awesome birthday gifts. Although the licorice won’t last that long, the rest of the items will. Don’t Blink.