Crowded/Glorious Engaged Encounter Retreat

This past weekend, Sidney and I presented at another Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter retreat. It marked the fifth retreat that we have given since we joined the ministry in 2022 and the third since we were discerned as the community leaders in 2025.

The couples from the May 2026 Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter retreat flash their certificates of completion.

This latest retreat was particularly noteworthy for a few reasons. First, we had 22 couples join us, a record for a post-COVID retreat. At the Immaculate Heart Retreat Center they had to change the seating configuration from a length-optimized setup to a width-optimized setup because of the sheer number of attending couples. We even had to speak into microphones because of the volume of people and the increased area of space we took up compared to an average retreat.

After mass on Saturday night, I ran up to the loft and took a photo of the 22 couples plus Sid, Fr. Jeff Lewis, and the Schroeders. The May 2026 Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter retreat was memorable for the outstanding attendance we had.

Another unique aspect to this retreat was the addition of two other couples on top of the 22 who had already registered. In the Tri-Cities area of Washington State, the Catholic community down there is trying to bring its own Engaged Encounter ministry to fruition. Because of this, two couples from the group attempting to launch an EE presence came up to observe how we give retreats. It was fun to show them what we do and the teamwork needed to pull off a weekend. They were impressed.

We got to take the retreat outside on Saturday morning for a Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter tradition known as the “Yes/No game.”

And most significantly, this retreat will forever stick out because it was the last one that Fr. Jeff Lewis presided over as the Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter chaplain. For years he has been the lead priest on our ministry team but that all changed a couple weeks ago when Bishop Daly announced new priestly assignments. Fr. Jeff was impacted in the announcement as the bishop named him pastor of Assumption Parish and St. Francis of Assisi Parish in Walla Walla, WA. Because he will now be three hours away from Spokane, he had to step down from his role as EE chaplain. However, I think we sent him out on a high note with so many couples in attendance and a retreat that went as smoothly as you could hope.

Sid and I stand with Natalie Schroeder, Joe Schroeder, and Fr. Jeff Lewis. We served as the ministry team at the May 2026 Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter weekend that took place at the Immaculate Heart Retreat Center.

Thanks be to God for another enriching Spokane Catholic Engaged Encounter retreat. Special gratitude to Joe and Natalie Schroeder for presenting with us again. What a blessing this ministry has been to Sid and me…we can’t wait to present again. Don’t Blink.

Past Engaged Encounter Blog Entries
Embracing Vulnerability at Engaged Encounter
A Marital Lesson I Recently Accepted
Still Making It Look Easy: Fr. Pat Kerst
Presenting With My Wife at Engaged Encounter

Happy 13th Ordination Anniversary, Dear Friend

It is a special day for our pastor and friend.

Today, Fr. Jeff Lewis celebrates the 13th anniversary of his ordination to the priesthood. On May 26, 2011, he answered God’s call and became a living sacrament of Christ when Cardinal Blaise Cupich ordained him a priest for service within the Catholic Diocese of Spokane.

Fr. Jeff celebrates 13 years of priestly ministry today. He was ordained by Cardinal Blaise Cupich on May 26, 2011.

When I wrote about Fr. Jeff’s 12th anniversary of ordination a year ago, little did I know all he would do between that time and today. It certainly has been a banner year for our family priest. Over the past 52 weeks, Fr. Jeff delivered an incredible talk at SEEK, launched a parish-wide evangelization challenge, produced major increases in average weekend mass attendance, made a grand slam principal hire that positively changed the trajectory of our school, and so much more.

Fr. Jeff receives the gifts from Sloan during a St. Mary School mass just a few weeks ago.

However, this year’s ordination blog post isn’t about delving into his many successes as pastor of St. Mary Parish. Nor is it to highlight his numerous priestly merits (I did that last year). Rather, the purpose of this year’s post is to thank him for being such a good friend.

Fr. Jeff has a close relationship with Sloan and Beau. My kids think the world of him.

In the four years that we have known Fr. Jeff, he has always nourished our family with the sacraments and sound spiritual direction. Over the course of this time we have also had the pleasure of getting to know him on a personal level. Thanks be to God, he has always been just a text message away for our family. But this past year we grew even closer and our friendship blossomed.

We are blessed to call Fr. Jeff a dear family friend. (photo courtesy of Carl Lockwood).

When I look back on the past 12 months, it seems like many of our family’s memorable events included Fr. Jeff. From spending Hoopfest weekend together to watching Cougar football in Pullman to “guy’s night” at the rectory to birthday parties to dinners, we have had the blessing of enjoying these good times alongside Fr. Jeff.

We joined Fr. Jeff Lewis and other St. Mary friends on a fun road trip to watch the Washington State University football team defeat the University of Colorado.

There is nothing like hanging out in a seemingly “non-parish” public situation with Fr. Jeff. Although we might be outside the walls of the physical St. Mary church, he is truly always on call as a disciple of Christ. This is evidenced by the many people who approach him for counsel, request a blessing, or call out “FATHER” when walking in a crowd (alright, Fr. Jeff is really tall so he does stand out).

Achieving success during Hoopfest 2023 was great but spending the weekend with Fr. Jeff in-between games was just as awesome.

What I am trying to say is that being a friend of a priest is eye-opening because you are constantly reminded of how much they are needed. Observing this firsthand via our friendship with Fr. Jeff has not only underscored the importance of priestly vocation but has left little doubt about how much our tall friend cherishes his.

Sidney sits next to Fr. Jeff during a break in action during Hoopfest 2023 (and of course Sloan had to be close by as well 😂). It was so cool to see so many approach Fr. Jeff during that weekend.

For all the great times we had with Fr. Jeff over the past year, the undisputed highlight came just last week. Sidney and I had the blessing of presenting with him at the latest Spokane Diocese Engaged Encounter retreat. Over the course of three days, we worked together to deliver five different marriage-based presentations to 14 engaged couples. I would say the chemistry between the three of us was pretty evident 😉. To minister with our friend in such an intimate and important way was pretty special.

The last night of our Engaged Encounter retreat, we had a little celebration for Fr. Jeff after all the programing was done for the day. What a blessed weekend it was!

As Fr. Jeff celebrates his anniversary today, I know there are scores of parishioners—both from St. Mary and his past parishes—who are celebrating his 13 years of priestly service too. Count us in that bunch! For our family, we are celebrating a priest who gladly eats our cooking, humorously inserts Sloan’s name into mass, and gladly accepts Beau’s hugs. We are also thanking God for a priest who genuinely cares for our salvation. Whether Fr. Jeff is saying a mass for our family, hearing our confessions, blessing our house, or doing a multitude of other things, we know his desire is that we make it to Heaven.

Fr. Jeff blessed our house in September. We know our salvation means a lot to him.

Throughout this past year, I have heard Fr. Jeff express how he is filled with joy and peace for the gift of his priesthood. As he embarks on the next 13 years of his priestly ministry (and the next 13 years after that, etc.), I hope the Holy Spirit continues to swell those blessed fruits within him. Please pray for our friend. Don’t Blink.