My Superpower

I ride the bus with a colleague who works on my marketing team. Yesterday, as we walked from the EWU bus station to our offices in Hargreaves Hall, Will asked me a really good question.

“How do you pass the time on the bus?”

The bus ride to/from Cheney is about 23 minutes, equating to roughly 45-50 minutes round trip. As I have outlined in this blog before, this time is coveted by most bus riders. Instead of spending it behind the wheel, it allows us to decompress and attend to things we wouldn’t have the luxury of completing while driving.

I answered Will’s question by telling him that I answer emails, format my blog, read the newspaper, and sometimes close my eyes. The last item really caught his attention. Will explained that he couldn’t imagine having the ability to sleep on a bumpy city bus. He then said something I never considered before:

“That’s your super power,” he exclaimed.

Well, if the ability to nap anywhere is a superpower, consider me Superman!

I can effortlessly sleep anywhere….including sitting up in chairs.

Yes, I have the uncanny ability to sleep “sitting up.” And this ability truly extends to just about anywhere. I can fall asleep instantly in our black leather chair at home but I also can snooze in more challenging environments as well. Car rides, bus rides, and in airports are welcome opportunities for me to catch up on sleep. Probably most advantageous of all, I can easily sleep on a plane. It isn’t out of the question for me to fall asleep prior to takeoff on the east coast only to wake up when the plane touches down on the west coast.

Where did this habit—I mean superpower—come from? My grandpa slept in his chair A LOT. As a restaurant owner who never seemed to leave his beloved café (which stayed open for extended hours), he preferred to catch some zzz’s in his reclining chair when he did come home. I observed this and I guess I ended up emulating it.

I like to think I keep my grandpa’s hours as well. As a 3 a.m. riser, I instantly fall asleep when I hit the pillow at around 11 p.m. each night. But when the opportunity arises for me to supplement this sleep schedule with a cat nap, I have no shame closing my eyes wherever I may be at. As long as I have a bed—aka a chair—I am good to go.

Sidney will tell you, however, that I don’t sleep like a baby. If she is driving a leg of a road trip and I am snoozing in the front seat, it isn’t pretty. As I never use head rests when sleeping in chairs, my cranium is bobbing back and forth while my body moves with the road. She says sudden brakeage, sharp turns, and a loud radio won’t wake me but it sure looks hella uncomfortable. I hope I don’t look as miserable when I sleep on the bus.

Sure, I would rather fly or render myself invisible as my superpower but falling asleep on call isn’t a bad consolation, right? Thank you, Will, for validating my superpower! Don’t Blink.

The Long Haul

On this date five years ago, I watched from my front lawn as an enormous 18-wheel truck turned down my street. My gaze didn’t leave this beast until it pulled right in front of my house, blocking everything in its path.

The 18-wheeler turning down our street in South Carolina.

This was the day that a moving crew gutted our home of everything inside and maneuvered it into a seemingly small space within the mammoth truck. After a few hours of hot and intense work, they told me they would see us in a couple weeks.

From the moment the crew arrived at our house, they started to cover and pack everything up.

When we moved from South Carolina to Washington, we opted not to rent our own U-Haul and forgo doing something similar to when I moved from Missoula to Myrtle Beach. Instead, we hired a crew to make the cross-country drive for us.

On March 11, 2020, this moving truck pulled up at our house in Myrtle Beach and packed up all our belongings.

Looking back on it, this was definitely the way to go. With all the stuff we had accumulated by that point in our lives combined with the hazards of driving a huge U-Haul 3,000+ miles, it was a no-brainer to use my modest WSU re-location allowance to fund this type of service.

Not to say that our choice didn’t come with some “bumps in the road.” Once the crew and our belongings left, they were tough to track. The consistent updates we had hoped for never came. The company that brokered the arrangement could never reach the drivers to provide me with their current location nor an ETA. The total balance I was supposed to receive within 24 hours of departure was never conveyed to me until shortly before they arrived in Washington (your final bill is determined by total weight of your cargo). Speaking of final arrival, the crew showed up multiple days past the two-week range they gave us.

Still, it was surreal to see the same 18-wheel truck that parked in front of my home in Myrtle Beach pull up in front of my parents’ house. The last time I saw it I was sweating from intense humidity and all was right with the world. When it came to a stop on my childhood street in Spokane, it had recently snowed and the world had shut down due to the pandemic.

It was surreal to see the same truck at my parents’ house that had been at my old house in Myrtle Beach just a few weeks prior.

The crew unloaded a shipment of our belongings in my parents’ driveway and then my dad and I jumped in his truck and followed them to Pullman. It was there that they unloaded the bulk of our stuff and moved it up a big hill into a storage unit. Once the last box was removed from the truck and packed into the storage unit I sure was happy to be done with it.

The moving truck at the storage unit complex in Pullman. I give the workers credit, they did a lot of back-and-forth up/down the hill to unload everything into our storage unit.

As I reflect on that experience a half decade later, it is still fresh in my mind. I can still see the faces of the crew, I can remember the phone calls I made to the company for status updates, and I will never forget the truck pulling up at both my old house and my parents’ house. But perhaps what I remember most is a specific sound. As I mentioned at the start of this post, the crew pretty much swarmed our house and packed things up in a hurried but efficient manner. As they did this work, the sound of ripping tape was relentless…they probably went through 30 rolls. I can still close my eyes and hear that cacophony that was only amplified by the echo generated from our high ceilings.

Another interior shot from moving day on March 11, 2020. You can see some of the rolls of tape on the counter.

Oh, I also remember all of our items that broke during the trek, too. Sigh. Moving is a challenge no matter what conveniences and/or services you have at your disposal. Don’t Blink.

For Better or Worse

“If you aren’t getting better, you’re getting worse!”

I can’t count the number of times my high school football coach shouted this in the Mead High School weight room during my prep years. The insinuation was that if you weren’t getting stronger, you could only get weaker. Coach Sean Carty’s constant declaration definitely increased our weight lifting intensity and it added plenty of pressure when max week came around.

This photo of me with Sean Carty was taken in either 2013 or 2014 after a University of Montana football game. Coach Carty was always fond of saying, “If you aren’t getting better, you’re getting worse!”

But Coach Carty wasn’t the first person to theorize about the regression that could ensue if constant improvement isn’t attained. In fact, we can go all the back to the 400s to hear something similar. Saint Leo the Great said: “For the one that is not advancing is going back, and the one that is gaining nothing is losing something.”

This is the thinking of the ultra-motivated, the high achievers who do incredible things in life. The people who embrace the thinking of Coach Carty and Saint Leo are never content. But is that necessarily a good thing? Well, probably not for everyone.

I feel most of the time I am a motivated person who likes to keep my foot on the gas pedal. Just ask my wife, she will describe me as a “go-go-go” type of dude. But I also do appreciate periods of rest. Taking a month in the summer to be lazy and not chase goals is something I feel worthwhile. If I do take that time do I really feel myself regressing? I guess it depends on how much ice cream I eat.

But as the Bible says, there is a time for everything and a season for every activity under Heaven. And even though “rest” or “relax” isn’t specifically mentioned in Ecclesiastes, I like to think that it probably is acceptable and that it can be achieved without drastic decline in one’s current state.

Bottom line, I admire the people who manage to always improve themselves and hesitate to take a break in fear of regressing. But I think I tend to agree more with the way that Coach Carty eventually modified his weight room warning just before I graduated high school: “If you aren’t getting better, you’re staying the same!” Don’t Blink.

Carolina Forest Thursday Rundown

Good evening, world! I hope your week is advancing nicely. Not too much small talk from me tonight so let’s get started with the rundown…

Fires Quenched – It was a little surreal to see our old neighborhood make national news this past weekend for a scary reason. Wildfires raged in the Carolina Forest area of Myrtle Beach. The development and house we called home were evacuated. Luckily, Sidney’s family, who also live in Carolina Forest, did not have to evacuate. From all accounts, it sounded like the fire department acted heroically to prevent the destruction of any houses.

My friend and former co-worker Judy Johns took this photo of her street in Carolina Forest. Thanks Be To God, no houses were lost!

Memento Mori – It was just four months ago that Sloan educated me on Memento Mori. The phrase means “remember your death” and pushes us not to forget about the inevitable. Perhaps there is not a more appropriate time for Memento Mori than Lent. After all, when ashes were applied on our foreheads yesterday, we were reminded that we are dust and to dust we shall return. Appropriately, a book that I am reading this Lent is called Remember Your Death and it is entirely about Memento Mori. They say the concept itself is a form of Lenten penance because it is self-denial that leads to conversion.

I am reading “Remember Your Death” as I journey through Lent. Memento Mori!

National Dentist Day – Today is National Dentist Day and I feel fortunate to have received superb dental care from my past two offices. When I lived in South Carolina I went to Carolina Center for Advanced Dentistry and currently I go to Dr. C Family Dentistry here in Spokane. This week, Beau had a dental hygienist visit his classroom to chat about the importance of good oral care. He couldn’t stop talking about the visit later that night. He was given a goodie bag and guess what his most prized item was? Bubble gum mouthwash!

Beau investigates the contents of his dentist “treat bag” while sitting next to his teacher, Mrs. Hoard.

Favorite Unhealthy Cereal – I can’t believe it has been exactly 13 years since I wrote my “famous” blog post on my top three unhealthy cereals (because I am sure you are all dying to know what they are, right?). I won’t leave you in suspense tonight, my list was comprised of Cinnamon Toast Crunch, Reese’s Puffs, and Rice Krispie Treats Cereal. Although I haven’t ate the latter in years because I think it no longer exists, I will always eat a bowl of Cinnamon Toast Crunch and Reese’s Puffs when given the opportunity. About four years later I would rank my top healthy cereals of all-time.

Our family likes Cinnamon Toast Crunch so much I once made Cinnamon Toast Crunch pancakes.

Jellycat – I took the below photo of Beau this morning. He is clutching his beloved stuffed dinosaur named “Roar.” We knew we had to get Beau a friend like “Roar” after Sloan has continued to enjoy “Corn,” her stuffed unicorn. Roar and Corn are both Jellycat stuffies, a product that goes a couple steps above your average stuffed animal. If you are looking for a toy to give a newborn, you might consider a Jellycat. Sloan still sleeps with Corn (don’t know if I should be concerned about that?) and finds a lot of comfort having the stuffed animal by her side.

Beau holding Roar, his Jellycat stuffed animal.

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Another rundown in the books! Continue to pray for Pope Francis and have a nice weekend. Don’t Blink.

Habits

I am reading a book that proposes an interesting theory. The author expresses his view that extraordinary people separate themselves from average people via one thing: habits.

Habits are important but I don’t think they are defining.

He goes further by suggesting he can determine the quality and future of an individual just by learning their habits (before even meeting them). He even equates habits to character.

I don’t necessarily agree with the author. I think there are brilliant people who have downright terrible habits but still separate themselves from the status quo. Charlie Sheen, anyone?

Then there are the people who have mixed habits. Take me for example! I think I have some good habits such as daily exercise and prayer. On the other hand, I have some bad habits such as staying up too late and eating too much at dinner. Where does that put me? Well, one thing is abundantly clear: I am definitely not exceptional.

So I wholeheartedly disagree that habits signify the quality and character of a person. But I do agree with something else the author said: habits are important and they can be changed.

A grand opportunity to change habits presents itself during Lent. They say it takes a month to make something a habit and Lent provides that time plus a couple extra weeks for good measure. I truly believe this holy period of prayer, fasting, and almsgiving is fertile ground to cultivate habits that improve yourself and give glory to God. To go back to yesterday’s Lenten post, establishing a habit during this season can improve your reflection in the spiritual mirror.

Truly, the best Lenten intentions bring long-lasting change beyond Easter. As we journey with Jesus in the desert through the next 40 days, it might be advantageous to begin or refine a habit. Although I don’t think the successful establishment of a new habit will distinguish someone as better from others, I do believe it can improve ourselves while possibly having a positive impact on those around us. Don’t Blink.

Lent 2025: Looking Into The Spiritual Mirror

Lent is now upon us as Ash Wednesday arrives a bit later than usual this year. The one advantage of Lent starting in March is that it gives us more time to reflect on our personal and familial Lenten plans for this 40+-day holy season. And trust me, that’s a good thing, because Lent isn’t exactly something you want to “wing.”

Lent 2025 is a great time to look in your spiritual mirror.

This past Sunday, one of our priests at St. Mary put the necessity of Lent in a very helpful perspective. Fr. Mike Kwiatkowski, our priest-in-residence, suggested that Ash Wednesday is the perfect time to look ourselves in the spiritual mirror. He cautioned that we might not like what we see but at least we have the opportunity to improve that reflection before Easter.

When I meditated on Fr. Mike’s analogy, it made perfect sense to me. How often do we look in our bathroom mirror and not like what we see? I have the feeling that I am not the only one who is sometimes less than pleased. But a thorough and honest look can spark motivation to improve. This improvement can usually be attained through exercise, eating better, and getting more sleep.

When we look into the spiritual mirror, we can be shocked at the hypocrisy, anger, and lack of faith that stares back at us. How do we get back into better faith shape? Through the most effective formula there is—prayer, fasting, and almsgiving. Thankfully, Lent provides the perfect length of time to steer us back onto the road of holiness by embracing those three pillars.

Sloan and I after attending the school Ash Wednesday mass in February 2024. .

Fr. Jeff Lewis, our pastor at St. Mary, once preached that Lent is like boot camp. It serves as an intensive way to get back on track. However, after boot camp ends, we can’t be lazy again and allow our training to go out the window. We still have to work hard at it.

As we prepare for the resurrection of Jesus Christ on Easter Sunday, I am going to do what I can to get into better spiritual shape. By the time April 20 rolls around, I hope to see much improvement when I look into that mirror and I also hope to have the endurance to continue onward. Don’t Blink.

Past Lenten Blog Posts
Pursuing the Best Reward
Lent 2024: Ash Wednesday Over Valentine’s Day
General Lenten Points of Emphasis
Lent 2023: A Necessary Time
Lent 2022: Solidarity With Ukraine
The Lenten Road
The Journey of Lent
The Real Purpose of Lent

Another Journal Filled

September 13, 2023 – February 26, 2025

No, that’s not the lifespan of our pet hamster. Rather, it is the date range that fills my latest completed journal. Many of my readers know I am a chronic journaler. If you need a video description of my hobby you can watch this or I can just give you the low-down right here: For 25 years I have kept a daily, in-depth record of each day I have lived. Needless to say, I have filled up a lot of journals.

I filled up this journal on Feb. 26, 2025.

This latest journal I finished contained 200 lined-pages and lasted me 533 days. Let me tell you, I have a lot of fond memories and life events packed into that book.

I fill my journals with lots of detail. This photo shows the journal I most recently completed open to a random page.

But instead of boring you with the specific details written over the course of those 500+ days, I figured I could share just the boring details from the first (9/13/23) and last (2/26/25) days of the journal.

On 9/13/23 I woke up at 3:30 a.m.; on 2/26/25 I woke up at 3:10 a.m.

On 9/13/23 I ate a protein bar and protein shake for breakfast; on 2/26/25 I ate half a peanut butter sandwich for breakfast.

On 9/13/23 I worked from home as an employee of WSU; on 2/26/25 I worked on campus in Cheney as an employee of EWU.

Wow, this is even more boring than I thought. Let me switch gears and cut the 9/13/23 vs. 2/26/25 comparison crap…

I think I can make this blog post more bearable by just quickly summarizing: On the first day of my journal, I was doing meaningful work for Washington State University. On that day, I was in charge of building quote graphics for both WSU and OSU as a joint statement was pushed out about a Pac-12 retention plan. I also helped get word out about a Board of Trustees meeting that was to take place the next day. Most interesting and entertaining of all, our University Marketing and Communications leadership team listened to our marketing agency present brand concepts (Here We Go would win out).

On the last day of my journal, I was doing meaningful work for Eastern Washington University. I was leading an effort to launch a major academic program marketing campaign by the beginning of the month. I also was setting up digital campaigns for various efforts on campus. Best of all, I had the joy of extending an offer of employment to a future Eagle.

Yes, work was good and it is still good.

But looking back on the first and last days of my journal, I am also reminded of family. On both days I got to drop my kids off at school. Even though I was working from home on 9/13/23, I actually spent more time with my wife and kids on the evening of 2/26/25. Our dinner time conversation for the latter was a doozy: what do other children bring for their morning snack in Sloan’s class?

Oh, you actually do care about the food we ate? Well, on 9/13/23 we had chicken and rice for dinner while on 2/26/25 we ate cheeseburgers and French fries.

Now this is just getting weird. You want to know what I ate for lunch as well? Okay, I will oblige. On 9/13/23 I had chicken nuggets and a banana vs. a peanut butter sandwich and Cheez-Its on 2/26/25.

You only wish you had such a detailed journal that you knew every meal you ate over the last 25 years, right? Ha! But in all honesty, my journaling habit has yielded greater fruits than just food recall. Sloan picked out my newest journal that we purchased from Staples. The cover might be a little girly but she was really excited to choose it. Feminine or not, I am optimistic for what will fill those pages. Don’t Blink.